Being Self-Full Not Selfish

It’s blogmas day eleven!!!

I know, I know. I went MIA and missed a few days. I celebrated my 20th birthday this past weekend and I was also studying for finals (kinda) and I can admit that I didn’t make time for writing. However, I’m back and I’ve decided to extend Blogmas until the end of December to make up for it. So please forgive me!!

In the midst of celebrating I was also thinking about everything that happened this year and all the things I went through. If there was one video that could accurately sum up what I’ve learned this year it would be this one where Iyanla Vanzant and Oprah Winfrey talk about putting yourself first and being self full. Check it out below.


Things That I Learned This Past Year

  1. A lot of us, especially women, celebrate being “strong”. We celebrate taking care of everyone else’s needs and wiping everyone else’s tears while neglecting our own. We celebrate not only carrying our own burdens but also those of others.
  2. My relationship with myself reflects my relationship with God. The times when I felt my lowest were also the times that I was furthest away from God, while the times when I’ve felt the happiest were when I was actively pursuing Him.
  3. I have given other people permission to steal from me. This statement might be the one that hurts the most. I have actually helped people become thieves in my life. I went so long giving and pouring into other people, without them pouring back into me, that eventually I had nothing left to give. That’s not a fun place to be in. You get angry at them for taking all of you without realizing that you gave them permission. I can also admit that because I wanted to be “strong”, I didn’t let some people pour into me and build me up. I convinced myself that I was good and that I didn’t need it.

Although this year was full of tears and disappointments, it was also full of laughs and new beginnings. This year God allowed me to be bent but not broken. He revealed to me my purpose and I think that was the highlight of my year. Looking back, I realize that everything really did work out for my good and that God has perfect timing!

If you ever find yourself confused or lost, not knowing what God has planned for you or why He’s allowing you to go through what you’re going through, Proverbs 3:5-6 will be your best friend in this season. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight”. Know that what He has for you on the other side is so much greater than you could ever imagine.

Year 20 will be one for the books (haha)!


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