I finished The Worn Out Woman by Dr. Steve Stephens & Alice Gray in three days. This is saying a lot because I’ve had two midterms, quizzes, and a bunch of homework due this week. This might be the best book I’ve read this year, replacing Don’t Settle for Safe (you can read that review here).
In my last book review, I said that I would be reading The Self-Love Experiment by Shannon Keiser next, but after reading a few chapters I decided that book wasn’t for me. Honestly, I had to force myself to read it. I think that truly takes away the enjoyment I get from curling up with a good book.
I didn’t enjoy that book because it was full of fluff, in my opinion. It was more of a book detailing the author’s personal experiences than it was a guide. If that’s something you’re looking for I would definitely recommend it! I have to be honest and say that I only read the first few chapters. It could’ve gotten better, but it just did not draw me in. I might try to reread it in the future.
The Worn Out Woman, on the other hand, was the complete opposite! I enjoyed this book because there were so many practical tips, steps, and ways to apply everything that they talked about in your everyday life. They gave advice that was actually reasonable and easy to follow.
The stories and accounts from real women made me realize that I wasn’t alone in the way that I was feeling, and their words were very reassuring. I didn’t think I would like that it was co-written by a man, since it is a book about women, but I think his perspective allowed him to offer really good advice. With all that being said, let’s get into the review!
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About the Authors
Dr. Steve Stephens is a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, seminar speaker, and author. He is the author of more than twenty books, with over one million copies sold, including the Lists to Live By series, The Wounded Woman, and 21 Surprisingly Simple Steps to a Great Life. He lives with his wife, Tami, and three children in Oregon.
Alice Gray is an inspirational conference speaker and the creator and compiler of the bestselling, award-winning Stories for the Heart book series. She has over thirty-five books to her credit with over 5 million in print. Alice has been a guest on a variety of Christian Radio and television shows in the US and Canada. She and her husband, Al, live in Arizona.
For the growing number of women who want to drop out because they are stressed out, this easy read provides practical solutions. Women can immediately apply these tools and strategies for limiting commitments, identifying gifts, dealing with emotions, nurturing the spirit, burying anxieties, facing the past, celebrating accomplishments, developing a support network, and protecting dreams. The Worn-Out Woman will help the reader trade in a life of running on empty for a life that is meaningful and fulfilling. She will find and recapture her passion, finally realizing the great potential God gave her.
I liked almost every chapter in this book, but my top three favorites were Shoulds & Oughts, Time for a Change, and Burlap People. Below are some of my favorite quotes from each chapter.
Shoulds & Oughts
- “When you compare yourself to others, you actually stop seeing yourself.”
- “Remember that your physical, emotional, and spiritual health is more important than temporarily pleasing someone else.”
- “At an even deeper level, perfectionism reveals a lack of faith. In a sense, perfectionism is really a way of playing God with our own lives. Instead of trusting God to keep His promise to redeem us and mature us, instead of walking in obedience, we try to preempt His work and get it right without His help. No wonder we’re exhausted!”
Time for a Change
- “Most of us are tempted to respond immediately to requests. We’re almost programmed that way – and out first instinct is to say yes. We’re flattered to be asked. We like the feeling of being needed. And we’re willing to overlook the important difference between being ASKED and being CALLED.”
- “If you want to be available to say yes to God’s call on your life, you’re going to have to say no to something else.”
- “It’s so easy for women to fall into a pattern of reacting to the demands of others instead of actively choosing how they want to invest in their lives.”
- “When your irritation level starts to rise because of a difficult person, it’s always a good idea to make sure your perceptions are valid.”
- “Setting boundaries with other people can significantly lower your stress, but only if you are clear with yourself and others about what they are. This is not a time for hinting or subtlety; it’s important that the other people get your message.”
- “But the Bible is clear that the Holy Spirit intercedes when we run up against our limits in prayer.”
One of my favorite things about the book is that they have a “Something to Try” section at the end of each chapter. This section offers reasonable steps or practices that you can take each day. Some of them are better than others. However, I appreciate them because they give you an action to take. I’ve found that other books give general advice but leave you wondering how you could possibly apply it to your life.
Should You Get The Book?
There is a quiz at the beginning of the book that helps you see just how worn out you might be. Below are some of the statements from that quiz. If you can check off at least one of the statements, you should read this book!
- You get irritable or impatient over little things.
- You run out of energy before your day is done.
- You find yourself eating when you really aren’t hungry.
- You avoid spending time with family or friends because they just take too much energy.
- You feel like nothing sounds fun or exciting.
Even if you didn’t check off one of those statements, reading the book can still be beneficial. It offers great tips on establishing a good morning routine, creating boundaries, and allowing yourself to say no.
Here are some links where you can buy the book:
Amazon: The Worn Out Woman
So What’s Next?
The next book that I’ll be reading is The Wait by DeVon Franklin and Meagan Good. If you would like to read along with me, here are some places that you can purchase it!
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